Guidelines for Effective Engagement in our #WoWaWild Book Club

It’s important that we create a space that is conducive to learning and introspection.  This is a place where people can share without fear of judgement or retaliation. That’s why we’ve created a few guiding principles for our book club. You’ll see our list below, but this list is ever evolving and collaborative. Please send any other recommendations to me or leave comments in the comments section below.


Respect the journey. 

Everyone is in a different place in their journey. Some of us have calloused feet from years of walking down this path and others of us may have only now found ourselves turning down this road with fear and apprehension. Please be respectful of where others are on their journey and trust that others are doing the best that they can. 

Become comfortable with being uncomfortable. 

Racism is a topic that we often discuss in theory, but is scary to actually break down in practice.  You may feel some discomfort. When this arises, instead of feeling guilty or defensive, use curiosity to explore what is stirring your emotions.

Introspection is encouraged. 

Certainly we all want a better world, but what does that actually look like? What surprised you? What was new for you? Can you relate to any aspects of the book or discussion? 

Practice what you learn. 

How can you apply what you’ve learned in even the small, subtle ways? When you know better, do better. 

We aren’t experts. 

Please know that the facilitators are not experts. We are here to help guide a conversation and we are learning alongside you. 

Ask for help. 

Are you struggling with something? Unsure of feelings? Reach out to one of us. We are happy to chat with you and help you through. 

Listen actively without interrupting. 

Write down thoughts or questions that may arise while someone else is speaking. 

Discuss, don’t debate. 

We’re here to learn from each other, challenge our thoughts, and to hear about life from another perspective. Debating and arguing have no place here. 

Wherever you are in your journey we are so glad you’re here!

These guidelines were created in conjunction with Becky Woodruff and Katie Fox.


Are there any guidelines for engagement you would change? Did we miss something? Tell us in the comments below or share a story here.


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